Lesson learned. “I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads, not by the number of road-blocks I’ve encountered. ” There are many people who are offended by the truth. I am no longer ashamed to speak up, no longer afraid to tell the … via #AntiSex


Lesson learned. “I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads, not by the number of road-blocks I’ve encountered. ”
There are many people who are offended by the truth. I am no longer ashamed to speak up, no longer afraid to tell the truth, regardless who is offended by my truth. I’ve chosen not to let my family’s incest history make me bitter, I am also reminded each day that there are same battles that are not mine to fight.
We cannot go back and rewrite our history.
As adult survivors it is up to each one of us to never be silent about things that matter just to comfort other people in their ignorance and fear or because it offends them. Incest remains one of the last taboos in our society and is an unthinkable concept to most people, but that doesn’t mean its not happening in our home, and in communities worldwide.
Incest and sibling sexual abuse is intergenerational, and will take many generations to change such an ingrained culture in our DNA. History can’t be erased, ignored or changed, however history has left behind many wounded souls.
I am asked many questions about my journey of recovery, my incest family, even about my children, and I answer them all the best I can from what I myself know, feel and have experienced in my lifetime, but I can’t speak for others, for those who have asked me, “Do your children know your story? I don’t know what my own children know about me, they are adults and have not been part of my life journey for the last twenty-five years, a lifetime of changes in all our lives, I don’t know them and they have chosen not to know me.
I know a few of you are very sad when reading my story, but I ask you not to be sad for me. I am actually grateful each day to be able to live my adult life in the light of truth, to know who I am, to finally be at peace with all my childhood memories, and to know that I am only crazy to those family members that are living the lie.
To read more go to: Authors Pages: http://members.westnet.com.au/cristina.m/index.html
Life commends our Respect, and our Soul Dignity, never settle or accept anything less. I am an Adult-Incest-Survivor-Author-Advocate and the Founder of Cristina’s House of Hope. CHOH WebPages: http://www.cristinashouseofhope.com.au/




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Lesson learned. “I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads, not by the number of road-blocks I’ve encountered. ” There are many people who are offended by the truth. I am no longer ashamed to speak up, no longer afraid to tell the … via #AntiSex


Lesson learned. “I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads, not by the number of road-blocks I’ve encountered. ”
There are many people who are offended by the truth. I am no longer ashamed to speak up, no longer afraid to tell the truth, regardless who is offended by my truth. I’ve chosen not to let my family’s incest history make me bitter, I am also reminded each day that there are same battles that are not mine to fight.
We cannot go back and rewrite our history.
As adult survivors it is up to each one of us to never be silent about things that matter just to comfort other people in their ignorance and fear or because it offends them. Incest remains one of the last taboos in our society and is an unthinkable concept to most people, but that doesn’t mean its not happening in our home, and in communities worldwide.
Incest and sibling sexual abuse is intergenerational, and will take many generations to change such an ingrained culture in our DNA. History can’t be erased, ignored or changed, however history has left behind many wounded souls.
I am asked many questions about my journey of recovery, my incest family, even about my children, and I answer them all the best I can from what I myself know, feel and have experienced in my lifetime, but I can’t speak for others, for those who have asked me, “Do your children know your story? I don’t know what my own children know about me, they are adults and have not been part of my life journey for the last twenty-five years, a lifetime of changes in all our lives, I don’t know them and they have chosen not to know me.
I know a few of you are very sad when reading my story, but I ask you not to be sad for me. I am actually grateful each day to be able to live my adult life in the light of truth, to know who I am, to finally be at peace with all my childhood memories, and to know that I am only crazy to those family members that are living the lie.
To read more go to: Authors Pages: http://members.westnet.com.au/cristina.m/index.html
Life commends our Respect, and our Soul Dignity, never settle or accept anything less. I am an Adult-Incest-Survivor-Author-Advocate and the Founder of Cristina’s House of Hope. CHOH WebPages: http://www.cristinashouseofhope.com.au/




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Jason Headland murdered his 5 year old daughter and his 3 year old son, to get back at his wife for leaving him. He will serve 31 years behind bars. The FACAA believe it should be life ! What do you think an appropriate sentence should be ? A … via #AntiSex


Jason Headland murdered his 5 year old daughter and his 3 year old son, to get back at his wife for leaving him.

He will serve 31 years behind bars.

The FACAA believe it should be life !
What do you think an appropriate sentence should be ?

A father who wanted to punish his wife for leaving him used their young children as “weapons” to “break her heart into 50 million little pieces” by callously killing them.

Police found the bodies of five-year-old Zaraiyah-Lily Headland and three-year-old Andreas Headland inside a Yanchep home on October 20 last year.

In the WA Supreme Court on Thursday he was sentenced to life behind bars, with a minimum of 31 years to be served for his “grotesque act of family violence”.
We believe there should be no minimum 31 years, it should be for the term of his natural life.

The court heard that the cause of death could not be ascertained but the children had been drugged with sleeping tablets crushed in their juice, and asphyxiated.

To this day Mr Headland has not told the family or the authorities exactly how the children died.

He claims to be a “loving parent” with a “strong sense of family values” .

What in the honest hell kind of lying filth is that ? LOVING PARENTS DO NOT KILL THEIR CHILDREN ! A STRONG SENSE OF FAMILY MEANS YOU DO NOT KILL YOUR CHILDREN !

The absolute rubbish lies that gets fed to judges and magistrates make us here at FACAA physically sick, literally. How anyone could claim to be a loving parent after murdering their children is absolutely beyond us ! LOVING PARENTS DO NOT MURDER THEIR CHILDREN, YOU DO NOT KILL THOSE YOU LOVE !

What made us even more sick was some of the comments in the news threads. Things like “She made him do this” or “this is what happens when bitches keep kids away from their husbands”

Wow…. talk about negating the responsibility of a criminal !

NOTHING, ZIP, NADA, Absolutely nothing on this planet can ever, nor will ever, make it ok or make an acceptable excuse to MURDER CHILDREN !!!!!!

I have personally known both men and women who have been unfairly kept from their children. Yes, this is hell ! Yes, this is grossly unfair and entirely wrong. However….

These parents were legitimately good parents, they fought every single day to change the family court orders, to gather evidence, to prove the cases against them wrong, they fought hard and some of them them won, some did not, but…..

THEY NEVER KILLED THEIR KIDS ! The fact is these parents ACTUALLY LOVED THEIR CHILDREN so murdering them, or even the thought of murdering them NEVER ENTERED THEIR MINDS !!!!!!

This is literally unbelievable for us at FACAA to even think that someone could blame anyone for this crime other than Jason Headland !

He MURDERED his children, he wrote the note saying that she would have to, “live with this for the rest of your miserable life”.

Jason Headland is not a “man pushed too far” he is a PATHETIC COWARD WHO MURDERED HIS CHILDREN. He does not deserve our sympathy, he deserves absolutely nothing but utter contempt and a life lived behind bars until the day he is taken from this earth !

Headland murdered his 2 innocent children, no matter what quarrels, or qualms you may have with your partner there is no excuse for killing anyone.

If you hurt your partner you take away one of your children’s parents, you rob them of any chance of a normal life and leave them with a gaping hole that they can never fill.

If you hurt your children because of something your partner did… THEN YOU ARE A PATHETIC COWARD COMPLETELY INCAPABLE OF MAKING ADULT DECISIONS OR CONTROLLING YOUR EMOTIONS IN AN ADULT WAY , AND MORE IMPORTANTLY, YOU PROVE THEY WERE RIGHT IN KEEPING YOU FROM THE CHILDREN!

No matter what your partner has done, your children are always innocent and do not deserve to be hurt.

Rest in Peace Zaraiyah-Lily and Andreas Headland, there is no excuse for your deaths. May you rest easier knowing your killer is serving at least 31 years for your deaths. (A)

#FACAA #ProudFACAA #WA #WAPOL #WAPol #DV #DVIsChildAbuse #EndAllDV #EndAllChildAbuse #NoExcuse #NothingMakesItOkToHurtKids #EndingChildAbuse #RaisingAwareness #ChangingLives #HealingSurvivors #ChangingLaws #LegalReform #Law #Legal #GuardiansOfTheInnocent #VoiceForTheVoiceless #HopeForTheHopeless #ChildrensChampions #JasonHeadland #PATHETICCOWARD #RIP #RestInPeace #Innocent #InnocenceLost #UnlimitedPotential




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Lesson learned. “Without freedom from the past there is no freedom at all.” Setting boundaries is a sign of growing up, healthy boundaries that respect one another, we each need to show others the same courtesy we ask from them, as the adult survivor… via #AntiSex


Lesson learned. “Without freedom from the past there is no freedom at all.” Setting boundaries is a sign of growing up, healthy boundaries that respect one another, we each need to show others the same courtesy we ask from them, as the adult survivor and not the wounded victim child, you will find inner peace and the strength to set guide lines for the choices you yourself make in life, even when others disapprove of you and your decisions. Never feel guilty, fearful or ashamed for setting boundaries, you have the right to say no to things that go against your spirit. When you no longer need the approval of other people, your destiny is shaped by your own healthy boundaries.
To read more go to: Authors Pages: http://members.westnet.com.au/cristina.m/index.html
Life commends our Respect, and our Soul Dignity, never settle or accept anything less. I am an Adult-Incest-Survivor-Author-Advocate and the Founder of Cristina’s House of Hope. CHOH WebPages: http://www.cristinashouseofhope.com.au/




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Lesson learned. Incest is generational, inbreeding, sibling sexual abuse, and child rape has been silent for many generations. Adult-Incest-Survivors know very well how his or her incest family will treat those victim/ survivors who speak up and esca… via #AntiSex


Lesson learned. Incest is generational, inbreeding, sibling sexual abuse, and child rape has been silent for many generations. Adult-Incest-Survivors know very well how his or her incest family will treat those victim/ survivors who speak up and escape their family’s trap. I no longer fear the family, no longer feel guilt or shame for what they did to me as the child, I’ve learned to put the blame, guilt and shame where it belongs, with them, and have finally accepted that I can’t change this family’s past, nor can I change how my adult children see me, one day they will have to do the inner healing work as I have, and expose…”La Famiglia” Our enemies are the members of our own household.
Sometimes we have to move on without certain people. If they’re meant to be in our life, they’ll catch up.
To read more go to: Authors Pages: http://members.westnet.com.au/cristina.m/index.html
Life commends our Respect, and our Soul Dignity, never settle or accept anything less. I am an Adult-Incest-Survivor-Author-Advocate and the Founder of Cristina’s House of Hope. CHOH WebPages: http://www.cristinashouseofhope.com.au/




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Lesson learned. “When truth is replaced by silence, the silence is a lie.” There is pain in knowing the truth, but that doesn’t mean that those who are living with the lie are pain free. There is a lot of pain and suffering in the world for people w… via #AntiSex


Lesson learned. “When truth is replaced by silence, the silence is a lie.”
There is pain in knowing the truth, but that doesn’t mean that those who are living with the lie are pain free. There is a lot of pain and suffering in the world for people who live with invisible illness that others know nothing about. I was 43 years of age when my suppressed childhood memories inundated my awareness mind and changed my life and me forever.
To read more go to: Authors Pages: http://members.westnet.com.au/cristina.m/index.html
Life commends our Respect, and our Soul Dignity, never settle or accept anything less. I am an Adult-Incest-Survivor-Author-Advocate and the Founder of Cristina’s House of Hope. CHOH WebPages: http://www.cristinashouseofhope.com.au/




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Lesson learned. Enough is enough, sometimes what we are most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set us free. After all these years, I didn’t think that much more would surprise me, but to my surprise, I am surprised each day by the different… via #AntiSex


Lesson learned. Enough is enough, sometimes what we are most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set us free. After all these years, I didn’t think that much more would surprise me, but to my surprise, I am surprised each day by the different questions I am asked by people who know nothing about my childhood past, and know even less about the struggles I face each day as I continue on this journey of enlightenment and walk on as the adult incest survivor. I was asked. “How could you do this to your family and children?” Adult survivors are being punished for speaking a truth that so many deny, and its not just the silence by members of my incest family but also by this society that can’t bear to hear the painful truth.
Its the last day of July 2017, August will be here tomorrow, and so will my childhood memories return to visit me for a while, they will return as they do each year to remind me of the anniversary of those past events, just like Spring and Summer returns each year. I will not omit any part of myself to protect this family’s incest history, I will no longer hide their secrets and I refuse to be made this family scapegoat.
To read more go to: Authors Pages: http://members.westnet.com.au/cristina.m/index.html
Life commends our Respect, and our Soul Dignity, never settle or accept anything less. I am an Adult-Incest-Survivor-Author-Advocate and the Founder of Cristina’s House of Hope. CHOH WebPages: http://www.cristinashouseofhope.com.au/




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